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Being the reference 2 min Principle Scope: adapt to your own remit

Leaving is not a betrayal

The reflex

You are thinking of leaving a team, an engagement, or an activity. The question of continuity sometimes gets mixed up with a judgement about your loyalty.

The builder’s reflex

Separate the choice about your own path from organising the handover. A realistic handover is prepared inside the agreed frame; it is not public proof you owe anyone to justify leaving.

Why

Reasons to leave or to stay can be professional, personal, or material. They do not come down to visibility, to pay, or to a debt owed to a scene. A departure can affect a group; acknowledging that effect does not mean making one person responsible for all its future continuity.

What remains can take several forms: people supported, working habits, service delivered, decisions explained, documents or tools maintained. A public piece is not superior on principle to those contributions. Comparing leavers and stayers by the number of texts written erases a great deal of the real work.

A volunteer stops organising workshops. With the group she agrees to hand over the calendar, the contacts she may share, and the points still open, to someone who accepts the relay. The group also has to decide which activities it can continue with the means it has. The handover is not about asking the person leaving to stay reachable indefinitely.

Time, the commitments that apply, and access all determine what can be handed over. Whoever is responsible for continuity has to help choose the priorities, allocate the means, and accept the limits. It is not always possible to transfer all the knowledge before a departure. That gap calls for a decision about the service, not for a moral debt or a demand to publish.

Try this

If a handover is being prepared, list the activities under way, the open decisions, the useful resources, and the access to arrange. Prioritise with whoever is responsible what matters for what follows, inside the time available.

Have the responsibilities accepted by the people receiving them, and plan a suitable check. Identify what cannot be handed over and what will have to be cut, deferred, or learned another way.

Agree when your involvement ends. Any later help needs a new agreement. You do not have to finish a publication before answering an opportunity; sharing publicly stays a separate decision, on its usefulness and its conditions.

From where you sit

To discuss

What are we actually asking for in a handover when someone leaves, and which decisions stay with the group?

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